You were an infant crying. I was 13 and babysitting while our folks were out drinking together. You had colic and I had no idea of what that even was at the time.
I just held you in my arms and spun in a circle until I was dizzy. I looked in your eyes and you had a dazed stare, but the crying stopped and you fixed your gaze on mine in that curious state.
Maybe you saw the stars.
Maybe in that moment you actualized the power of the universe. Maybe some people are like stars that burn too fast and maybe the world sometimes spins out of control and we can’t get our balance. Whatever the case I held you until the tears were gone and we both remained in that state of kiyâm until eventually you went to sleep.
The Cree word kiyâm is “a root for various verbs meaning to be quiet, to move quietly, to sit quietly and so on. However the “quietness” of the word kiyâm is not just in the action of avoiding making noise. It very much includes a quietness of the spirit, echoed in the body.”
It’s like a point of surrender.
I look back and recall your fits as you grew into a small girl and threw some wicked temper tantrums which could have given my own childhood tantrums a run for their money.
And what I think is many things that are neither here nor there that I won’t ever have the gift of sharing with you except as an echo between worlds, but one is, to ask Mary Daly to give you the definition of spinster, and she’ll say something along the lines of: a whirling dervish witchy web-weaving woman who creates her own time-space continuum.
Long ago, your dad shared a story of your premature birth and his fear of losing you too soon when you had a close call. I never forgot the heaviness of his heart when he spoke of that fear, because that feeling was like a comet which rose in his chest and shot up through the sky.
There are so many comets shooting through the sky now. May they “burn, burn, burn, ” so that those who are “lost and in the dark may see the astonishing light of their own being.”
While growing up, we were told to stop our crying, but some cries are so loud that they tear a hole through the universe and shatter the silence between us.
So many of those cries come through our smiles, those brave faces we are taught to wear like war paint in our battle against the world.
If there is one thing I could tell you now it would be: kiyâm.
Kiyâm.. kiyâm.. kiyâm.
Rest your weary head and may you find peace and comfort among our relatives in the spirit world.
Until we meet again..
Hiy Hiy.
–For B